Forgiveness
One
of my teachers had each one of us brings a clear plastic bag and a sack of
potatoes. For every person we'd refuse to forgive in our life, we were told to
choose a potato, write on it the name and date, and put it in the plastic bag.
Some of our bags, as you can imagine, were quite heavy.
We
were then told to carry this bag with us everywhere for one week, putting it
beside our bed at night, on the car seat when driving, next to our desk at work.
The
hassle of lugging this around with us made it clear what a weight we were
carrying spiritually, and how we had to pay attention to it all the time to not
forget, and keep leaving it in embarrassing places.
Naturally,
the condition of the potatoes deteriorated to a nasty slime. This was a great
metaphor for the price we pay for keeping our pain and heavy negativity!
Too
often we think of forgiveness as a gift to the other person, and while that's
true, it clearly is also a gift for ourselves! So the next time you decide you
can't forgive someone, ask yourself... Isn't MY bag heavy enough?